From the Toilet Seat of Mothers Keepers
Do not be alarmed. I am not going to the bathroom. My 5 month old is taking a nap and I am watching my 2 year old play in the bathtub. This is the most likely opportunity that I will have today to have a moment at the computer without someone crying or little fingers on the keyboard. #fingerscrossed
When I had my first daughter, two years ago, I was a wreck. When she was sleeping I was afraid of waking her up and when she did wake up or cried, I rushed to calm her. As well as she was cared for, it was at the expense of my sanity. I walked around in my husband’s gym shorts and a giant bathrobe. My hair was a disaster. I was Pig Pen from Charlie Brown. I never quite could put a finger on what that smell was. I could never remember the last time I showered and I hadn’t used my razor in so long it started to disintegrate.
I felt bad, both physically and mentally. I was not in a good place, but when I was able to take care of myself I felt a lot better. When I take the 15 minutes to shower at night and the 15 minutes it takes me in the morning to get dressed and put makeup on, I felt better. I felt like me again. My daughter was not a fan of anyone but me and I knew it. I didn’t want to leave her with anyone, my husband included. I sacrificed for her. A little bit at a time, I let someone help while I took care of myself, even if it was only to shower. What a difference it made. It was hard for me to ask for help. It still is, but I know now how necessary and essential it is for moms to have help.
When I became pregnant with my second baby, I hoped the postpartum days would be better. I vowed that they would. I promised myself that if I didn’t do a thing for myself all day, I would at least take these few minutes to myself every day. Some days it took me all day in 15 1-minute trips to the bathroom, but I did it. I got dressed. I put makeup on. And it felt good. I’m not neglecting my children while I do either, most days they are right there with me and it takes an eternity to apply mascara but I get it done.
We all have something that makes us feel good and feel like ourselves. My mom LOVES to lay in the sun. That makes her feel good. I feel good with a fresh face. Whatever it is that makes you feel good… do it. Do it for you!
Here at Mother’s Keepers, we want you to “put your makeup on” or whatever that means to you. We want to help. No request is too small or silly. If you want to lay out in the sun uninterrupted, call us. We’ll gladly hold your baby while you relax. Want to take a shower and a nap (yes please!!)? Call us, we will entertain your kids for you.
Mother’s Keepers; Keeping mothers rested and relaxed one face of makeup at a time.